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I (immortal, M) think I might be developing feelings for my roommate (27M). Help!!!
unrivaled_zucchini
So, for the past couple years I (immortal cultivator, M) have been living with my former disciple (27M). We get along really well, he can be kind of annoying and dramatic but I don’t really mind, I even think it’s kind of cute (haha). I also help him manage his flow of demonic energy, so we’re pretty close. We even spend time together in his dreams.
Recently, I’ve started to feel like maybe I’m seeing him in a different way than before. I’m straight, so I’m not sure if the feelings are really something to worry about. But I can’t stop thinking about it! Is it really okay for us to keep living together when he doesn’t know I feel this way? Should I tell him??
The problem is, I know he’s had romantic feelings for me in the past, so I’ve tried to be really clear about shutting that down. I’ve even been quite cold and distant to him just so that he doesn’t get any wrong ideas. We haven’t talked about his feelings for a while, so I don’t know if he still has them or if I already missed my chance. I’m kind of freaking out, any advice you could give would be great.
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gongyixiaos_simp
If he had feelings for you in the past, I don’t think you want to bring it up if you’re not serious about it. You don’t want to get his hopes up and then decide you’re not into it. How were you being cold and distant? Just curious how things look from his point of view?
unrivaled_zucchini
My roommate is really clingy and affectionate. It’s really important to him, so I don’t mind it and I even kind of like it. Embarrassing, right?? But I try to curb it so I’m not leading him on. Like, if he comes over while I’m lying on the couch and crawls on top of me, I make sure to sit up so that he’s sitting in my lap instead, but then I stroke his hair so he doesn’t feel neglected. Or if we’re holding hands, I let him rub my hand with his thumb but I don’t let him put my fingers in his mouth and bite them, at least not unless we’re alone. I know that hurts his feelings sometimes but I’ve been strict with the boundaries so he doesn’t end up getting hurt later.
gongyixiaos_simp
Wait. What?
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chunshanfan666
The attraction is probably still there. I feel like if you just lean in and give him a kiss you could start everything off.
unrivaled_zucchini
Well, we do kiss pretty often. He really likes kissing me, and it’s okay. I mean, he’s cute when he does it... like a little puppy gnawing on a toy (LOL). My roommate is this adorable guy who acts cool in front of other people but when we’re alone he’s really needy and sensitive. So if it makes him feel better for us to kiss, that seems fine to me. Plus, it usually... makes my, uh... cultivation levels rise. If you see what I’m saying. You know how all guys have that kind of physiological reaction when someone kisses you. Anyway so yeah, I don’t know how I could explain to him if I suddenly started kissing him in a romantic way and not just because he likes it and it feels good to me.
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jinlancityrollers
OP, are you really straight? if you’re having feelings for him, maybe you should figure out your sexuality before you pursue this any further. i think it’ll be better for both of you if you can approach the conversation from a place of certainty. have you ever been with a guy before?
unrivaled_zucchini
Yeah, but just my roommate so I don’t know if that counts.
jinlancityrollers
wait, you’ve hooked up with ur roommate?
unrivaled_zucchini
Kind of, yeah. I’m really not sure if it counts! I mean we first did... that, under pretty unusual circumstances. Since we’ve been living together, he sleeps in my bed a lot so often when he wakes up he’s.... well, it’s normal, right?? And I would feel bad just leaving him like that, so I do..... help him out, with my hand or my mouth or whatever. I mean, he looks really pitiful when he’s all... anyway, so I’m happy to help. And then that usually gets me worked up (because it’s the morning—it’s natural for me, too), so he helps me out in return. It happens most mornings, sometimes evenings too. He’s a young guy so he has a lot of vitality haha. We also... that, sometimes, too, but really not more than two or three times a week. And then afterwards when we’re lying in bed we only snuggle, not sexual at all.
jinlancityrollers
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bigdemonicenergy
OP, just talk to him. i have the feeling it’ll all turn out okay.
unrivaled_zucchini
Aaaahh, okay!! You’re right, the brave thing to do is just say it. But if I tell him I love him, how will he know I mean it in a gay way, and not the normal way?
bigdemonicenergy
lmfao OP you dumb fuck what’s the “normal” way to tell your male roommate you love him
unrivaled_zucchini
Well I already say it a lot. But it’s just to make sure that he knows. He’s a really tender guy and he gets hurt really easily. So I make sure to say “I love you” every day, and especially say it back whenever he says it, or else he would get really upset, which I hate seeing! But like I said, I didn’t want to lead him on so I’ve never said that I mean it in a gay way.
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coreformer
guys, OP is a fake. stop responding
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wetassprison
LMAO seriously you can’t tell an obvious troll?? pretty funny though, nice job OP
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skinnerdemonbox
No immortal cultivator is going to be fucking around on Reddit.
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UPDATE: I (immortal, M) think I might be developing feelings for my roommate (27M). Help!!!
It turns out we are married. Thanks everyone!